Multi-Dimensional Life
Just a few years ago I deleted hundreds of blog posts that I had written over a span of ten years. I thought long and hard about keeping them because that’s a lot of work. A big amount of time and effort was spent finessing them, adding pictures, responding to my readers, etc. Part of me wondered, if I delete these, will I regret it? However this was my dilemma, the blog was ultimately about my health journey, going from the chubby girl in high school to a gym owner, but day by day I was feeling trapped. I was niching myself to death. And that’s not all. The most important thing was that I had changed. While much of what I wrote was still valid, everything I wrote was before owning my business, before being published, and was just sifted through the sight of younger eyes. Age’ll do that to you, I guess.
The truth is that we are often told in this world to define ourselves, choose a niche or you won’t get seen, and this sticks with us as we go about trying to help others know us. However, what happens when you no longer feel the same warrior’s stance and passion for something? What happens when you wish you could have people know you for more than your niche?
Social media has cast a spell on us in recent years. It reminds me of when I would hear casting directors tell actors that they don’t know where they fit in this industry, or I also heard it about publishing, you should write in the same genre or they won’t pick you up. They’ve now slapped an algorithm on us and said, if you want to get views, you have to make sure you’re pretty enough, entertaining enough, and most importantly, that you have a niche they can send out to the audience.
We as humans are fascinated with labels, niches, and genres. Yet if we looked into most of our brains, we would see that every one of us is enormously different and multi-dimensional. This is the very reason we sometimes don’t know why we cry when we should be laughing, or angry when we should be sad. This is why many of us are entrepreneurs.
Why do we fall for this demand, though? Often times it all boils down to us needing validation. We want others to see our gifts and ultimately see us. Yet, because we try so hard to conform in order to be seen, this is the reason many of us have become like water moving with everyone trying not to make waves or get cancelled.
For years I worried about this as a writer because sticking with one genre in my books is like locking me in a padded room. I don’t want to write formulaic. Sometimes I feel like historical fiction, other times I find my brain wants to create different worlds within our own (The Velieri Uprising Series).
So I sat in front of the computer trying to decide about how I should niche myself and just that thought alone placed me in a straight jacket. That’s when I knew. I wanted to help people feel alive and free to exist in multiple passions and genres.
Getting rid of the old and starting in the new feels good. Deleting those blog posts was necessary because my life looks so different now. I am an author now.
So here’s my thought process:
We are multi-dimensional people.
Stop trying to prove ourselves and care less.
Let people grow and expand.
We all have chapters in our lives and they don’t need to look alike. Make it completely different if you need to.
Understand your worth and you’ll never feel the need to prove anything to anyone.
So, my blog is back. I come with new eyes and a new perspective.
Is there any thought, habit, or thing that you need to delete from your life? Anything that doesn’t fit you anymore?
Come find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every time I have a blog post up, I’ll talk about it on my channel!
Tessa
